Finding The Right Crystal – Depends On Finding The Right Question.




We regularly get asked “what can I do” for such and such; or how do I go about finding the right crystal or crystals to do a particular job; or create a certain outcome. Often however the question is vague, confusing, or covering too many aspects all at once. Frequently the question being asked is actually several questions rolled into one.

Similarly, we will hear about how crystals don’t work or deliver sort after results. Upon further investigation, confusion is in the mix somewhere, usually along with unreal expectations and frequently a dose of misinformation. This makes the task of finding the right crystal really difficult. Hopefully, we can help you sort this out:


First, define your question.

So in determining the best crystal or crystals to do a particular thing. Your first task is to clearly, accurately and simply define your question. The right answer will come with the right question! It’s a lot like using a pendulum. Asking the question “will it rain today” is too broad in coverage. However, asking “will it rain where I am” is clear and concise.

Another example: ‘I’m lacking love in my life and I want to attract a new partner. Also to be able to decide, without being confused when it comes to my choice. And I don’t want to attract someone already in a relationship. But if I do I need them to be able to leave’. 

As we can see, there are several questions here revolving around these issues: Self-love; attracting a new partner; overcoming confusion; making a decision; Stating a negative and trying to control another – these are out of bounds.

Confusion reigns supreme in this example! The core issue is developing a real and proper love of “self”. When this is achieved, life makes more sense. Also, your heightened vibration will make it a lot easier to attract a loving partner and relationship for yourself.

Clarity, in itself, will help you choose the right crystal(s) for the job. Furthermore, it will help you to draw the circumstances you desire.


Let’s deal with confusion.

My first suggestion in this example or any situation would be to choose a crystal(s) to assist in lessening the confusion around the issues involved. There are several crystals that can assist with reducing confusion: Amethyst, Apatite, Azurite, Bloodstone, Carnelian, Fluorite, Lapis Lazuli, Opal, Sapphire, Selenite and Pietersite, all are commonly used to minimize confusion.


Gaining clarity.

Next, I would propose concentrating on getting some clarity regarding what you want in a situation. In this relationship example; is a relationship being sort after, that is mainly healthy for the long term, or one that is mostly exciting for the short term? These are seldom the same thing. Trying to achieve conflicting things at the same time is not liable to work with any crystal or any other energy. For gaining clarity and insight on what is most important for you, these crystals are excellent to work with: Amber, Aventurine, Diamond, Blue Quartz,
Dumortierite, Halite, Selenite, or Tiger Eye.


Making a decision.

A big part of the process is being able to see opportunities for what they are, as well as being able to decide one way or the other. Several crystals are able to assist in this area, helping to put decisions and insights into practice: Amethyst, Azeztulite, Bloodstone, Cerussite, Charoite, Green Agate, Onyx, and White Jade.

(Even up till now, in a very real sense, confusion, clarity, and making a decision, are in the mix. Several crystals are available to choose from. Determining the best choice may require further research into the distinction of each stone. Or at the very least requiring a selection of one or two to work with).




Additional help from meditation and/or prayer.

I have found meditation and/or prayer to be very helpful for gaining insight and lessening confusion. In my opinion, they work synergistically with the crystals to provide even better outcomes. Some say these activities are even more important than the crystals themselves.


Crystals to assist with the problem or outcome.

After you have worked on getting clarity, releasing confusion, and can decide what it is that you really want. Now you can get on with the matter at hand. 

Let’s return to our example; a person seeking self-love and a new partner.

Now that there is clarity as to the requirements for a relationship, it is time to think about what crystals can bring love energies in.

For self-love – remember, you cannot give away or share what you don’t have. This is such an important understanding in developing all relationships! These crystals will help achieve this: Magnesite, Rose Quartz, and Sugilite.

To attract and share with a new partner: Garnet, Rose Quartz, Rhodochrosite, Rhodonite, and Morganite


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Disclaimer: The outlined metaphysical and healing properties in this website are for inspiration and reference. We gather this information and alleged properties from writings, books, folklore and various other sources. They are also dependent upon the attitude and beliefs of the individual. Furthermore they do not replace diagnosis or treatment by a qualified therapist or physician.

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